What it looks like to be a strong, independent woman; circa 2016

What does it mean to be a strong woman these days? Independent woman? Does that mean ditch the boyfriend/fiance/husband and do your own thing? Or just not depend on the significant other as much for things such as your happiness, your sense of worth, and your lifestyle/life goals?

For me, I try every day to work towards my life goals and dreams. And I don’t let anyone or anything slow me down or diverge me from these things that are the most important to me. I never stop, and I never take anything as “good enough.” I can always be better, so I am always working on improving myself and everything I want in life. Everything I do is for a reason and takes me closer to achieving my goals and dreams. I’m constantly learning, reading, listening, watching, working, practicing, thinking, and absorbing everything I possibly can so that I can only be better than the day before.

There are days when I feel like I don’t improve, or even fail and go backwards. I don’t let those days bother me. We all have days like that. No one’s perfect; the key is to just keep trying. Some days I sing the song “Just keep swimming” from Finding Nemo and that helps me just to keep going. While I have big goals and dreams that may seem unattainable at times, I don’t let failure discourage me. If a particular goal doesn’t pan out for me, I just adjust it accordingly for what will work with me and what is attainable.

Also, it is helpful to work on goals in baby steps. For example, when I started running regularly, I didn’t sign up for a full marathon. Instead, I started out with 5K’s. Then I moved up to 10K’s, 15K’s and finally a half marathon. I may never run a full marathon, but I know if I really wanted to I could by slowly increasing my distance over time.

Another important aspect of my life is that I don’t let anyone tell me what I can or can’t do. If I feel like there’s a toxic relationship in my life that’s holding me back from my full potential, I drop it. Or I ignore that person completely. No one can control me, I am my own person. I have God on my team. My husband is also there to support me 100%, but even if he wasn’t, I would still find strength by looking to myself and my faith. It also helps that I have had great role models including my grandmothers, my mother, my aunts, my cousins, my friends, and Gwen Stefani. Love all of you wonderful women!

What do you do to insure your strength and independence? What are your rituals and daily mantras?

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